Take Back Control Of Your Life When Things Go Bad

When things get out of hand, the easiest thing to do is to deny the situation and do everything you can to not admit what’s happening. However, this doesn’t solve anything. In some cases, it can make the situation even worse, especially with financial or health problems. What you need to do is regain control of your life.

Yes, regaining control of your life when things go bad can sometimes seem impossible. The good news, however, is that you are not alone. Nor are you condemned to watch your life crumble around you. Try the tips below and take the initiative to regain control of your life.

Tips to regain control of your life when things go bad

1. Change the perspective of your story

Think about what you tell people when they ask about you.

• Do you tend to tell them how bad things are going?
• Do you always complain or look depressed?

If this is the case and you are really determined to take back control of your life, the first thing you need to do is change your internal dialogue and the way you talk about yourself.

You may have heard of the ‘imposter syndrome’. If this bothers you, then you need to talk about the things that make you feel like a cheater… However, you need to do this from a positive angle. Start telling your story based on your success and the future you desire.

This is a process and requires continuous effort. If you find yourself slipping back into a negative attitude, correct yourself right away and try not to over-analyze.

2. Believe that anything is possible

To regain control of your life when you think it’s impossible is essentially self-sabotage. If you have a big dream or big goal, then of course you have to be realistic about the amount of time it will take.

However, you should always convince yourself that your goals are possible. In most cases this is indeed the case. Is your life going bad because you’re drowning in doubts?

It may seem like it will take a long time. However, you really just need a strategy to achieve smaller goals step by step.

3. Create order in your life

If you think you need to regain control of your life, it may be because of a lack of order in your life. If you feel like you’re out of control or overworked, it’s common for people to walk away from the situation or pretend it’s not happening. However, what you need to do is work on things to make them realistically manageable.

• Start by making a list of your problems and identify the ones that you can now solve on your own.
• Then see if there is someone who can help you with things you don’t understand or with things you really have no control over.

4. Make small changes every day

If you’re trying to regain control of your life, you can’t expect everything to change overnight. There may be many things you need to do. However, you should give yourself a chance to progress gradually, instead of overloading yourself with too many things at once.

• This way you can adapt to your new lifestyle and develop the right mentality.
• When you stop thinking about complete transformation, you can focus on the small steps and the positive results in your life.

Over time you may see the results. This may help you make them permanent and also give you more confidence.

5. Distance yourself from the negative people in your life

The people around you can sometimes make you forget who you are and what you’re striving for. Perhaps:

• their messages are negative.
• they don’t bother to help you.
• they just have different dreams and values.

When you realize that regaining control of your life is more difficult because of these types of people, then you need to distance yourself from them.

However, this does not mean that you should break the relationship with them. This can sometimes be impossible, as they are family or lifelong friends. In this case, you need to set your boundaries so that their attitude and comments don’t affect you.

If you’re not sure whether you should maintain the relationship with them, try to remember that negative relationships are a burden and will cause problems.

What you need to get out of your current situation are people who support you, encourage you and help you find solutions. However, don’t expect them to sort things out for you.

6. Accept Responsibility

Finally , when you are trying to regain control of your life, you must accept that you are responsible for the situation you are in. It doesn’t matter how.

The reality is that you are in the current situation because of the decisions you have made. In some cases, it may simply be that you have decided not to make a decision.

If you can accept this, then you can stop feeling like a victim  and really face your problems. Have you ever experienced a situation where you lost control of your life? Are you experiencing it right now? How do you try to resolve the situation?